2018年03月11日

On Whose View Do You Stand?

On whose view do you stand?


A few days ago, I was reading a book about parenting written by a tutor of a private tutorial school.  This author gives advices to those parents having difficulties raising children.  In that book, an interesting experience was introduced.


One day, a boy who does not like much of studying came to the tutorial school with the result of a mid-term exam.  As usual, the score was not good, about 30 out of 100.  So I told him to try harder next time.  However this boy was not disappointed at all.  He was satisfied with his score, and was even proud of it.


Then I realized.  I was measuring him with my own scale.  I was judging him whether he did well or not, based on my own scale.  It was wrong.  I did not realize that he had his own scale to measure his performance.  Tutors must measure students performance based on their scale.


And the author concluded as if we could measure their performance based on their scale, all children would perform well.  When we treat them as capable children, then they will perform much better.  


As I read this book, it reminded me of the verse from the Bible which Christ taught us.

In everything, do to others what you would have them do to you. (Matt 7:12)


Usually, we look at a situation from our own perspective. We measure others with our own scale, and asking for more or trying to convince them with our own belief.  But it does not work.  First of all, we must learn to see from their view and use their scales to understand them.  This book was eye-opening for me.


Surly as a child, I was happy to be understood and told that I did a good job.  It made me try harder.  The above quotation of Christ is calledthe golden rule.”  We sure would like to live like that.


On whose view do you stand?


Youth Pastor, Kenshiro Goto


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