2018年05月07日

“Before making others to be changed”

Before making others to be changed


In these days, the “human relationship” is becoming the major cause of our stress.  The feeling of exhaustion after the series of National Holidays from the end of April to the beginning of May (the Golden Week) is called the “Satsuki-byo (the May depression).”  And, it is believed that the cause of this depression is related to human relationship.


In many cases, people feel stress when “others do not do as he or she wishes to do.”  For example, if you were a teacher, then you may feel “my student does not want to study, even I try so hard to help.”  So, you may push your student to study against his or her wishes.  Yet your student would hate studying more and more.  The harder you would try, your effort would become useless.


In the book written by Masatoshi Koshiba, the Nobel Prize winner says “a student becomes fond of you who teach mathematics, not because he likes mathematics.  He becomes fond of mathematics, because you are an attractive person to him. That’s how elementary and junior high school students are.  Even, senior high school students are the same.”


I thought “that makes sense.”  The first thing we as adults can do for children is to change our ways of teaching.  Further, we should try to become an attractive adult.  It may seem a detour to create a good and trusting relationship with children, yet it really is the shortcut to success.


And this fact had been taught in the Bible written more than 2000 years ago.  Christ said “Why, then, do you look at the speck in your brother's eye and pay no attention to the log in your own eye?    First take the log out of your own eye, and then you will be able to see clearly to take the speck out of your brother's eye. (Matthew 7:3, 5 TEV)”


We are fast in finding others fault.  Yet, when we observe ourselves closely, we find there are things which we cannot change for ourselves.  “If I change, the world will change”, and it is true. If we want to say something to someone, then think twice to take a look at ourselves.  In the end, that would give us a favorable result.


Youth Pastor

Kenshiro Goto

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