2018年05月07日

“Before making others to be changed”

Before making others to be changed


In these days, the “human relationship” is becoming the major cause of our stress.  The feeling of exhaustion after the series of National Holidays from the end of April to the beginning of May (the Golden Week) is called the “Satsuki-byo (the May depression).”  And, it is believed that the cause of this depression is related to human relationship.


In many cases, people feel stress when “others do not do as he or she wishes to do.”  For example, if you were a teacher, then you may feel “my student does not want to study, even I try so hard to help.”  So, you may push your student to study against his or her wishes.  Yet your student would hate studying more and more.  The harder you would try, your effort would become useless.


In the book written by Masatoshi Koshiba, the Nobel Prize winner says “a student becomes fond of you who teach mathematics, not because he likes mathematics.  He becomes fond of mathematics, because you are an attractive person to him. That’s how elementary and junior high school students are.  Even, senior high school students are the same.”


I thought “that makes sense.”  The first thing we as adults can do for children is to change our ways of teaching.  Further, we should try to become an attractive adult.  It may seem a detour to create a good and trusting relationship with children, yet it really is the shortcut to success.


And this fact had been taught in the Bible written more than 2000 years ago.  Christ said “Why, then, do you look at the speck in your brother's eye and pay no attention to the log in your own eye?    First take the log out of your own eye, and then you will be able to see clearly to take the speck out of your brother's eye. (Matthew 7:3, 5 TEV)”


We are fast in finding others fault.  Yet, when we observe ourselves closely, we find there are things which we cannot change for ourselves.  “If I change, the world will change”, and it is true. If we want to say something to someone, then think twice to take a look at ourselves.  In the end, that would give us a favorable result.


Youth Pastor

Kenshiro Goto

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2018年04月08日

“Renewed day by day”

“Renewed day by day”


If the medicine for rejuvenation was invented now, surely it would receive the Nobel Prize.  Within our aged society, that is how much people wish to regain their youth.  Yet, what do we mean by being young?  We can find the answer in the Bible.


Therefore we do not lose heart. Even though our outward man is perishing, yet the inward man is being renewed day by day. (II Corinthians 4:16 NKJ)


Thus, we can say that a person with youth is being renewed his heart daily.


There was Mrs. S, an older lady in our Church.  Mrs. S brought up her 5 children by herself, completing her duties asbeing a mother.  Yet furthermore, she started to invite her friends to her house for regular gatherings, trying to share the love of God.  She was a cheerful lady, so many guests attended the gatherings.  Yet, the most people were really looking forward to her onigiri (rice balls).”  They were so delicious.  


One day, she had a stroke.  She was hospitalized for 3 months, and lost her speech and the functions of her right side of her body.  By then, she was already 76 years old, so we thought she would not be able to attend the worship in the Churchanymore.  Against our anticipation, she diligently had gone through her rehabilitation program.  At the end, she was at the Church 30 to 40 minutes before anyone arrived, by pushing her baby carriage.  Her joy was to attend the worship and to listen to the messages from the Bible.  Her happy face was so inspiring.  We were all encouraged by her strong will.  But not only attending the worship, she had decided to join the senior group, and evangelized to the people using canes.  She believed that it was her mission.  There were many who had some sort of disabilities, yet she was such an encouragement for all of us.


Mrs. S returned back to Heaven at the age of 84, fully completing her life on the earth.  Just before she was returning back, she spoke me.  She said pastor, my day of going home in Heaven is nearer.  Thank you for everything.  I will be going there before you,so make sure you follow me up there.


Senior Pastor Masao Nakanishi

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2018年03月11日

On Whose View Do You Stand?

On whose view do you stand?


A few days ago, I was reading a book about parenting written by a tutor of a private tutorial school.  This author gives advices to those parents having difficulties raising children.  In that book, an interesting experience was introduced.


One day, a boy who does not like much of studying came to the tutorial school with the result of a mid-term exam.  As usual, the score was not good, about 30 out of 100.  So I told him to try harder next time.  However this boy was not disappointed at all.  He was satisfied with his score, and was even proud of it.


Then I realized.  I was measuring him with my own scale.  I was judging him whether he did well or not, based on my own scale.  It was wrong.  I did not realize that he had his own scale to measure his performance.  Tutors must measure students performance based on their scale.


And the author concluded as if we could measure their performance based on their scale, all children would perform well.  When we treat them as capable children, then they will perform much better.  


As I read this book, it reminded me of the verse from the Bible which Christ taught us.

In everything, do to others what you would have them do to you. (Matt 7:12)


Usually, we look at a situation from our own perspective. We measure others with our own scale, and asking for more or trying to convince them with our own belief.  But it does not work.  First of all, we must learn to see from their view and use their scales to understand them.  This book was eye-opening for me.


Surly as a child, I was happy to be understood and told that I did a good job.  It made me try harder.  The above quotation of Christ is calledthe golden rule.”  We sure would like to live like that.


On whose view do you stand?


Youth Pastor, Kenshiro Goto


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